Conscious and Passionate Parenting Using LOA
Interview with Law of Attraction Parenting Coach Annie Desantis
Jul 14, 2009
Annie Desantis is a parenting coach whose coaching principles are based on the law of attraction or LOA. She says that, "Very simply, the law of attraction is what underpins our experience."
In addition to being a parent, step-parent and a grand parent, Desantis is also a psychotherapist and has held numerous courses and coaching programs over the years. She has a background in early childhood education.
Desantis interacts with parents and grandparents everyday, via a membership site where free parent coaching audios, forum, blogs, member blogs, member web pages, tele-seminars, interviews, answers to commonly asked questions are available.
What is the Law of Attraction?
The law of attraction states that one attracts experiences, events, people similar in vibration to one's thoughts. It implies that the individual is the creator of his destiny.
Events, circumstances, people and things around a person all reflect that person's vibration. Feeling good or positive emotions brings forth more positive manifestation. A vibration of negativity or inadequacy can manifest as scarcity in material belongings, depleted health or something else that's not desired.
Desantis' coaching principles are based on the law of attraction. She believes that children are likely to be happy and well-adjusted, if parents are passionate and joyful.
In this interview, Desantis explains the importance of parents loving what they do. She encourages parents to have fun and merely focus on taking a series of baby steps to being happy.
Q.How important is it for the parent to be passionate about what they do (parenting and/or making a living) to pass along the trait to the child?
A. "Really important - ideally I'd want parents to be passionate about parenting! But really children learn most from how you are as a person. So seeing you excited about life, enjoying the things you do and having ways to get yourself back on track when you do go down the drain, is really important.
"Some people have great passions for something, a career, a hobby, a cause. Some parents have lots of interests and new projects or ideas. It is not about having to have a grand passion, it is about modeling to our children how we can make our own lives as happy and joyful as possible.
"It may just be simple things like enjoying gardening or reading. If our children see us being excited or really enjoying something, then they learn it is a good thing to explore things we love doing.
"As parents we can encourage our children to explore things they are interested in and extend them in that area until the energy goes out of it.
"For instance, if your little boy is fascinated by dinosaurs, then go to the library, look on the internet, give him lots of paper and paint to draw them. Make up stories, help him to make story books about his dinosaurs etc.
"You can't force passion. Some parents end up feeling guilty because although they love their children, they would much rather be running their business.
"So long as the child is getting plenty of quality one on one attention from each parent, it is better to have a happy fulfilled parent that gives really good attention to their child, even for only 30 minutes a day, than a frustrated unhappy parent stuck with the kids all day.
"Your energy sets the tone with your children. So if you are happy and enjoying life you are providing great foundation."
Q. How can parents change non-serving subconscious thoughts and beliefs; beliefs inherited from one's own parents and learned from the environment?
A. "Firstly, become aware of what is not working - if you are feeling miserable or grumpy then that is a great indication something isn't serving you. Making more conscious choices to what makes you happier and more fulfilled is often just simply a series of small baby steps.
"Ask yourself would this or this make me happier? Make a list of things that you know raise your vibration, things that uplift you. Music, dancing, taking a bath, going down the beach - having a little toolkit on hand helps to shift things quickly when you feel you are going down the drain.
"In terms of parenting - keep it simple, of course we are going to on auto pilot a lot of the time. But when the kids start acting up - that is often the indicator that mom or dad is out of whack.
"It is a really good time to stop and ask yourself - what can I do that will help me to feel better, that will get me laughing and giggling, and that helps me to connect with my inner child?
"I tell my parents to do a grumpy dance - stomp around the house chanting, 'I'm a grumpy mommy', have a pretend tantrum, make a silly joke of it - you will start laughing, the kids will learn it is fine to feel their feelings, but that you can shift through it quickly.
"Doing something energetic is a really good way of shifting our perspective."
Related Articles on the Law of Attraction
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