How to Raise Children Using Law of Attraction
Interview with LOA Parenting Coach Annie Desantis
Jul 3, 2009
Annie Desantis is a law of attraction parenting coach and psychotherapist. She has a background in early childhood education and has run numerous courses and coaching programs over the years.
She is a parent, step-parent and now a proud grandmother, and she's well-known in New Zealand and Australia for her inspirational work with parents. Desantis shares her insights about parenting with a passion and how to be an effective parent by understanding and following the law of attraction.
Q. What is the Law of Attraction? What is Law of Attraction Parenting?
A. "Very Simply, the law of attraction is what underpins our experience. Everything is energy, including our thoughts and emotions. So the more energy we direct consciously and the more we clear up our unconscious thoughts and beliefs, the more we can create what we want.
"Our conscious thoughts are only about 10%, so positive thinking is a great start, but being more aware of our unconscious thoughts and clearing them, is more powerful. Our feelings give us a pretty good idea of what our unconscious thoughts and beliefs are.
"So how does that work with Law of Attraction Parenting? Most of our parenting is automatic, based on what we learned as children from our parents, perhaps books we have read, or ideas we have assimilated.
"Learning to parent more consciously, gives us far more choice about how we parent, and how we react in our relationships with our children. Understanding how the law of attraction works, helps parents to be far more vibrant, loving, empowered."
Q. How important is playing with your child? Is there such a thing as too much play?
A. "I can't think of anything more important! Play is vital in early childhood development for our babies and toddlers to learn. The first two and a half years are critical for setting the foundation for relationships and social interaction. Parents' one-on-one interaction, eye contact, and conversation is showing our babies how much they are loved and respected.
"The younger the child, in general, the more open and connected they are, they haven't had the years of conditioning that causes them to shut down their intuition. Play also bonds families, families who play together, stay together!
"The more we share positive, fun experiences the more we are building and strengthening good communication and creating a fun nurturing environment. Kids learn so much through their experiences of taking turns, testing out strength, laughing, creating, and exploration.
"Is there such a thing as too much play? Never! Never! Never! The areas of conflict are not too much play, but parents wanting their children to stop playing. We are often Interrupting play and trying to get kids to comply with our timetables, getting them off to school or inside for dinner. Of course, children need to develop skills of co-operation - but I often challenge the parents I work with, to decide what is really important.
"In these over busy times, parents, particularly if working, have limited time with their children. Rushing to get a meal on the table, washing done, homework etc becomes more important than play time together. I really encourage parents to make interaction and playtime with their child the most important. If you really have to get chores done, make a game out of it and use that time to play or chat with your children."
Q. How can parents empower their children to make better choices using the law of attraction?
A. "As parents we want our children to succeed. We worry they will get in difficult situations, we don't want them to get hurt, we want them to fit in and interact in acceptable ways. But we can't control every moment of our kids lives to protect them or make sure they don't stuff up.
"I encourage parents to relax with it all. Kids need to know it is ok to make miss-takes. The word just means you have missed on the first take. Learning to try things differently, not getting punished for wrong decisions, helping our children to think about what they would prefer to do differently next time is far more valuable than time out or consequences.
"The other point I think is worth making here, is if we help our children learn from an early age to trust their intuition, to connect in with their source or higher guidance (what ever you want to call it), then we are saying we trust them to have the resources to make good decisions or to choose differently next time."
Related Reading
Readers may also enjoy reading What is the law of attraction along with Abraham and the Law of Attraction and Parenting the Highly Sensitive Child.
