Practical Parenting Tips Based on LOA
Law of Attraction Parenting Coach Shares Useful Suggestions
Jul 6, 2009
The law of attraction (LOA) states that one attracts people, events, circumstances that are similar to one's core vibration. Annie Desantis is a parenting coach, whose methodology is based on the new age principle of the law of attraction.
Desantis is also a psychotherapist and has held numerous courses and coaching programs in Australia and New Zealand where she is very well-known.
Desantis interacts with parents and grandparents via a membership site where free parent coaching audios, forum, blogs, member blogs, member web pages, tele-seminars, interviews, answers to commonly asked questions are available.
In this interview, she explains practical ways of putting the law of attraction to use, in common situations such as when a toddler throws a tantrum or when a child complains of being bullied in school.
Q. How would a parent use the law of attraction to handle a toddler throwing a tantrum?
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- "Don't get hooked in.
- "Don't pay any attention to what anyone else thinks.
- "Keep your child safe - make sure they are not hurting themselves or anyone else.
- "You can sometimes head off tantrums in younger children with excited distractions.
- "Allow and affirm the child's feelings - I know it is really frustrating when I interrupt your game, or when I stop you having more cookies.
- "Don't give in to the demand or you are reinforcing throwing a tantrum to get what you want - you want your child to learn better ways of getting what they need or want.
- "Don't set up battles. If your child struggles with getting dressed in the morning and you have a rush to get out the door - allow more time or put them to bed in their morning clothes!
- "Be creative about getting what you want as well as giving the child time to be ready in their time.
"Tantrums can be frightening, children sometimes find it scary to be out of control. But it can also be a test of power. Think about it, you have these big people who you are dependent on making most of the decisions.
"Claiming a bit of power back by disruption is a great way to get some control! As a parent we want to help our children communicate their needs better. Tantrums are usually in children who are not yet able to articulate what they want or don't have the maturity to understand why they can't have another cookie.
"And don't rehash the tantrum later, you are just adding energy to it - focus on the behavior you do want rather than what you don't want."
Q. What can a parent do, using the principle of the law of attraction, when she sees her child make a choice that's not in his best interest?
A. "How do you know it is not in their best interest? As parents we think we know best for our child. We are judging and critiquing their behavior and choices based on our own criteria.
"But many many people who have overcome incredible adversity, say they would not be the person they are today if they had not gone through the tough times. Children learn so much more from mistakes than they do from just cruising through a nice safe protected little life.
"Of course we want to keep our children from making life threatening decisions, but other than that I would say it is more important to keep the communication flowing and for your love and approval to be unconditional and unrelated to their behavior."
Q. How can a parent use the law of attraction, to comfort a child that's complaining of being bullied and teased in school?
A. "This is such a difficult issue for parents to tackle. And often I have seen parents make the situation worse. Firstly don't do anything without knowing what your child wants.
"Parents contribute to keeping their child a victim when they wade in (from loving defense) and try to stop the bullying behavior. Sometimes kids just need to let of steam and complain about someone they dislike or are scared of in school.
"Finding out what they might need to handle it better or if they want you to intervene is much more empowering for them than it is having you reinforce their position as a victim.
"Help your child to develop a vision of themselves as strong and capable and surrounded by support. If your child agrees, talk to the school about their bullying program.
"But be really careful as this can backfire if you are making a complaint against another child. It is better to focus on building the skills your child needs to feel empowered rather than contributing to victim energy. "
Related Reading on the Law of Attraction
Readers might also enjoy reading What is the Law of Attraction? and How to Raise Children Using Law of Attraction?
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